Avyakt murli for Wednesday 28 November 1979

⁰> > 18/10/98 Om Shanti Avyakt BapDada Madhuban 28/11/79

¹How to remain free whilst living at home with your family.

²Today, BapDada was seeing a particularly special group of His long­lost and now­found children of the previous kalpa. ³Out of multimillions, they are the few from the handful who know the Father and claim their inheritance from Him.

⁴Which group would that be?

⁵Today, Baba was specially observing the children who live at home with their family.

⁶He also observed the homes of all the families. ⁷He looked at the places where they interact with one another.

⁸Whilst observing the families, Baba also saw what influences there are of the impure elements and the adverse situations, and what influences there are of the kingdom.

⁹Whilst observing this, Baba also saw the wonders of some children, of how they remained unattached whilst living at home with their families.

¹⁰Those who can balance their freedom with their family life are playing a very good and elevated part.

¹¹They play their part very well with Baba as their constant Companion and by remaining detached observers, they have become examples in front of the world.

¹²Because they constantly stay under the canopy of protection of Baba’s remembrance, they remain constantly protected from any type of war that Maya can wage and any type of Maya’s attractions.

¹³When Baba sees such spiritual and special children, He constantly sings songs of their praise.

¹⁴Baba also saw some other children who live at home with their family.

¹⁵Because the children have an honest heart, the Lord is always pleased with them.

¹⁶Because they know the secret of remaining loving and detached, they are always happy with themselves and also keep their families happy.

¹⁷BapDada too is always happy with them.

¹⁸Children who are raazyukt (one who understands all secrets) and who constantly keep themselves and everyone else happy don’t need to hire a counsellor (kaazi) either for themselves or for others. ¹⁹They have nocase in which they would need to have a counsellor.

²⁰Many times, you would have heard the saying: “When the husband and wife are happy together, what can a third person do?” You must have experienced many cases where your own sanskars argue with yourself; where they keep a debate going on within yourself. “Is this right or wrong? ²¹Should this happen or not?

²²How far should this happen?” This debate would constantly go on inside you. ²³When you are not able to decide for yourself, you have to make someone else your officer.

²⁴For some, it would be for a small matter and for others, it would be for a big matter.

²⁵However, if you and the Father were to make the decision together, everything would be finished within a second, and there would then be no need to have a counsellor, a judge or a lawyer.

²⁶One of the laws of a family is that when something happens in a family, the parents would not allow the news of it to reach their children.

²⁷They would discuss it amongst themselves, and they bury it or accommodate it within themselves. ²⁸If the news of the situation reached a third person, it would definitely spread, and the more something spreads, the more damage it causes.

²⁹The more a physical fire spreads, the more damage it would cause.

³⁰All these small matters are like fires of the different vices.

³¹A fire would be extinguished there and then, and not allowed to spread.

³²In your family, only you and the Father should know about anything that happens; it should not reach a third person even though that one may be close, and even within the family.

³³Husband and wife should become happy with one another. ³⁴To become upset (naraaz) is the result of not knowing the secret (raaz).

³⁵It is when you haven’t understood the secrets of knowledge that you become upset, either with yourself or with others.

³⁶When you hire a lawyer, a small matter becomes a big case.

³⁷Therefore, to relate anything to a third person means to spread the things of your own household outside.

³⁸In the world nowadays, all the big legal cases are printed in the newspapers.

³⁹Here too, they appear in the newspapers of the Brahmin family. ⁴⁰Therefore, why don’t you resolve it between yourselves? ⁴¹Between just you and the Father, no third person should know anything of it.

⁴²Some children have a thought that reaches Baba.

⁴³They think that it’s fine for Husband and wife to settle everything, but sometimes, because the Husband is incorporeal and the wife is corporeal, they don’t get on so well, and this is why sometimes there is a meeting and sometimes there isn’t.

⁴⁴Sometimes, the heart­to­heart conversation reaches Baba and sometimes it doesn’t, that is, sometimes you don’t receive anyresponse, and this is why you have to have a counsellor.

⁴⁵However, you have found the Husband who has many forms.

⁴⁶Whatever form you want Him to have, He can present Himself within a second in front of you in that form. ⁴⁷However, you too have to become equal to the Father and adopt many forms.

⁴⁸Baba can make you fly and take you with Him to the subtle region within a second. ⁴⁹Baba comes from the incorporeal world into the subtle world, and so you too can come from the corporeal to the subtle world.

⁵⁰At least reach the venue! ⁵¹The venue also has to be beautiful.

⁵²The subtle region, the angelic region, is the venue.

⁵³The time for you is fixed; you’ve made theappointment; the venue is fixed; so, why does the meeting not take place?

⁵⁴The only mistake you make is that you want to take your clay with you.

⁵⁵Your body is clay.

⁵⁶When you have to work with your clay, then do so!

⁵⁷However, at the time of the meeting, you have to renounce the consciousness of your body, and put on the same dress as the Father wears.

⁵⁸You have to be equal.

⁵⁹Because Baba is incorporeal He adopts an angelic costume, and so the angelic one and the Incorporeal One together become BapDada. ⁶⁰You too have to put on your angelic dress and come here.

⁶¹Only when you wear your shiningdress will the meeting take place.

⁶²Do you not know how to put on thisdress?

⁶³As soon as you put on this dress, you can reach here. ⁶⁴This dress iswaterproof and fireproof against any form of Maya.

⁶⁵It has also been madeproof against the attitudes and vibrations of this old world.

⁶⁶You have been given such a beautifuldress, and yet you don’t put it on when you have your appointment!Do you love your old dress more?

⁶⁷It looks very nice if both are wearing a shining dress when you are in the region of light.

⁶⁸The couple would not seem well matched if one were wearing an old dress and the other one wearing a shining dress.

⁶⁹It is because of this that you experience a meeting. ⁷⁰The oldvibrations interfere and this is why you don’t receive any responseto your heart­to­heart conversation.

⁷¹It is because you are not able to understand clearly that you take some temporary support of others.

⁷²In fact, this relationship of Husband and wife should be so close and loving that you would be able to understand everything just through signals.

⁷³Even more subtle than signals, you should be able to understand one another through your thoughts. ⁷⁴Such should be your relationship of love!

⁷⁵Then, why do you allow a third person to come between you?

⁷⁶To allow a third person to interfere means towaste your time and energy.

⁷⁷Yes, you can tell another person what your heart­ to­heart conversation was like.

⁷⁸You can co­operate with one another on this level and share yor experiences with one another, but you mustn’t have a heart­to­heart conversation with a third person you have made your counsellor.

⁷⁹Don’t talk to one another as though you have acase.

⁸⁰So, let go of the counsellor and make it up with one another and become happy.

⁸¹Since you have chosen your Partner, why do you allow a third person to come between you?

⁸²When you allow someone else to come between you, you end up nowhere, in the middle of the ocean. ⁸³Then, because your Husband has to make effort to save you, the task of world transformation has to wait.

⁸⁴Then you ask when destruction will take place!

⁸⁵Since you wives are not yet ready, how can destruction take place?

⁸⁶Do you now understand why destruction is not taking place?

⁸⁷When you don’t even know how to change yourdress, how are you going to change the world? ⁸⁸Achcha.

⁸⁹Baba will tell you about the condition of the householders at some other time.

⁹⁰Today, Baba spoke to you of your internal household.

⁹¹To those who are constantly raazyukt and yuktiyukt and who always have a close relationship; to those who are constantly happy and keep others happy; to those who are constantly able to celebrate a meeting; to the children who are detached observers and Baba’s companions, BapDada’s love, remembrance and namaste.

⁹²Elevated avyakt versions of BapDada for the teachers: ⁹³Teachers are the most elevated souls and are equal to the Father.

⁹⁴Teachers should make a new plan every year.

⁹⁵Even students are able to make service plans, so what do the teachers especially have to do?

⁹⁶Now, create such a gathering that everyone says that although you are many you are united.

⁹⁷Didi and Dadi are separate from each other, and yet everyone experiences them to be one. ⁹⁸Therefore, this makes a great impact on everyone.

⁹⁹Since they are two, and yet giving regard to one another, they are like one, and are visible to all others as one. ¹⁰⁰All of you can also give the example of being united, even though there are many of you.

¹⁰¹People say that all of you speak the same things; everyone speaks what one of them speaks. ¹⁰²You all dress in the same way. ¹⁰³The words you all speak are the same points of knowledge. ¹⁰⁴Although the way you speak knowledge may differ from one another, the essence of it is the same.

¹⁰⁵Similarly, you must become such a group that everyone says that all of you are united.

¹⁰⁶This too will be a speciality.

¹⁰⁷Someone should be the instrument to become a sample and then others willfollow.

¹⁰⁸Whoever takes this initiative becomes Arjuna.

¹⁰⁹Who will become Arjuna?

¹¹⁰Those who become Arjuna will receive the first prize.

¹¹¹However, you do have to pay attention to something.

¹¹²What is that?

¹¹³What do you have to pay attention to?

¹¹⁴You have to co­operate with one another, and see each other’s specialities, and not see each other’s weaknesses. ¹¹⁵Don’t listen to them either.

¹¹⁶You will have to make this practice very firm. ¹¹⁷Whilst seeing everyone, you must be able to accommodate the weaknesses of those souls and co­operate with them.

¹¹⁸You should not have any feeling of wanting to reject or disregard such souls, but have feelings of mercy for them.

¹¹⁹Just as you are merciful towards souls who are experiencing sorrow, so too, you must become merciful towards those who have weaknesses.

¹²⁰What will happen when you become merciful in this way? ¹²¹Although you are many, you will also become united. ¹²²In the world outside, sensible and loving families accommodate the weaknesses of one another. ¹²³They co­operate with one another and thereby glorify the family name.

¹²⁴They would help a poor member of the family and give him what he needs.

¹²⁵This too is a family.

¹²⁶What should you do if some are influenced by their sanskars?

¹²⁷Co­operate and encourage them. ¹²⁸Increase their enthusiasm and make them your companion. ¹²⁹Then, although there are many of you, all of you will be seen to be united.

¹³⁰Is it difficult to do this?

¹³¹Since you are images that grant blessings, then such blessed souls as you do not look at anyone’s weaknesses.

¹³²So, what will you do? ¹³³Drop such an atmic bomb and see what happens.

¹³⁴This is the duty of you teachers.

¹³⁵Just as Baba doesn’t keep the children’s weaknesses in His heart, but, as the Comforter of Hearts, comforts your heart, so too, the teachers must become equal to the Father.

¹³⁶Don’t look at anyone’s weaknesses! ¹³⁷Instead of taking their weaknesses in your heart, comfort everyone’s heart in the same way as the Comforter of Hearts does.

¹³⁸Then, everyone will sing songs of your praise.

¹³⁹Then, no matter whether they are to become your companions or your subjects, blessings will emerge from the lips of all of them.

¹⁴⁰Blessings should constantly emerge from them of your being constantly a very loving and co­operative soul; one who is equal to the Father, the Comforter of hearts, in comforting their hearts.

¹⁴¹Only then would you be called a worthy teacher. ¹⁴²If teachers continue to look at everyone’s defects, what difference would there be between the students and the teachers?

¹⁴³A teacher is one who is seated on the Father’s gaddi.

¹⁴⁴Therefore, now perform such wonders! ¹⁴⁵Do you now understand who should be called a teacher?

¹⁴⁶Anyone can claim a prize in this.

¹⁴⁷A teacher should never speak of anyone’s weaknesses.

¹⁴⁸Teachers should only speak of specialities.

¹⁴⁹A teacher means one who is equal to the Father in supporting those who don’t have courage.

¹⁵⁰Do you understand who is called a teacher?

¹⁵¹You are progressing well. ¹⁵²Now, create the essence of the gathering.